Thursday, April 5, 2012

A True Relationship (Love) Never Dies; A Conflicted View

I have been asked from time to time why I'm not in a relationship. That's a loaded question. First of all, I think there are people in this world who are not meant for starting families. God has other intentions for their lives, and I feel like I am one of those people. I have also never been one to completely agree with myself being bisexual, so that type of relationship isn't an option either. Another main reason I don't want a relationship is because of how much this world has turned its back on many of the values that should be present in a relationship. Now I'm not saying I've practiced abstinence either, which means that perhaps my chosen solution isn't a very good one.

I am 30 years old, so I have had my share of relationships in the past. While my choice is to no longer pursue them, at least at this time, everyone needs social interaction and closeness to others in different ways in order to survive in this world. I am a very extroverted, social, and communicative person, so I fill in my gaps with family and friends. Sometimes I think I know what I'm doing, and sometimes I wonder what I should be doing differently. While it has always been a perplexing part of life for me, it has been my path with its ups and downs, and I have definitely enjoyed the journey. I'm sure it helps feed my selfishness to an extent as well, as I get to focus on myself more than most people do.

Continuing along this path, I realize this means that I will not have any children of my own. Starting a family is one of the main reasons people have relationships. I have contemplated this decision many times, but I feel as though it is in tune with my direction in life. Either way, I never claimed to have the answer; I just trust that God will direct me where he wants me to go. I'm aware there are many different ways to look at this situation, and that is why our need for God is very evident. There is no way I could sort all of that out! I need his help, just like with everything else, and everything provided to me is from him.

Relationships aren't the only thing failing in this world. I just chose to write about them because I had certain things I wanted to say regarding my personal experiences. I see so many people hurting from relationships because there is not the right bond formed due to our whole world losing focus on what constitutes a true relationship. Divorce rates are always increasing, and you hear about all these murders and tragic family situations. Don't get me wrong. I know there are many people who have great relationships. The only problem with that is some of them haven't yet withstood the test of time just yet. As the years go by, the statistics get worse for these same relationships in question. The people are getting older, and something gives. I honor the older couples we see today that are still together. My great-grandmother is still alive, and she was married to her husband almost her whole life before he died in 2008. These are the relationships from back when that we should model our own after, but I'm telling you they're going to be hard to find in a few years.
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4 comments:

  1. I had a long post but by accident it was wiped out! I will try again tomorrow... Lol!

    This is Sabrina Williams :)

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    1. Hey Sabrina! Don't you just love it when that happens? lol Thanks for reading my blog and letting me know you were here! :)

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  2. I think you are right about how the relationships our grandparents had/have are dying out. I'm not sure what the cause is but I believe part of it has to do with people giving up too easily. Also, when our grandparents were in their prime there was a strong stigma with people getting divorced, where as now no one sees it as being strange or odd at all. Thankfully I have a wonderful marriage but just like anyone we've had our ups and downs. I feel blessed every day that God lead us to be together.

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    1. Your comment made me think about the fact that God changes everything. And I like how you said you've had your ups and downs because a true relationship always does, but love and loyalty can transcend. I also like how you said you believe part of the problem is people giving up too easily. I think you are definitely right about that. Thanks for sharing Valerie, and it is nice to read about a true relationship after having blogged about how rare they are becoming with every passing day.

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